I am a lucky guy. I am lucky that I am financially sound. That I am not living paycheck to paycheck, and that I have investments diversified that I can fall back on.
I am lucky that I am not below the poverty rate. That I have a sound family life. And that I have enough money to have food on the table on a daily basis.
Money is not everything. But, it certainly solves a lot of life’s day-to-day problems. And it’s something that we all need to get better at managing.
But, there are times in this life when tragedy hits us which makes us just not care at all about money. When we’re going thru a breakup. A divorce. The death of an immediate family member. Stuff like that. That makes us not care about how much or how little money that we have.
Money is simply one factor in a multitude of ones in the universe. I guess I am lucky in that I am in that camp. When a relationship problem hits. Or when tragedy strikes, I could care less about how much money I have in the bank.
All I care about in that moment is how to fix that problem. That issue that has been nagging me. How to alleviate the concern. And this has put things into perspective. It has made me realize that money isn’t everything.
That’s a luxurious position to be in. Many people living below poverty think about money day in and day out. Because that’s the one thing in their life that they are missing. It’s just so interesting how the world works.
When you don’t have something, all you can think about is that one thing that you don’t have. And you could care less about all the things in the world that you have. It’s easy to say to practice gratitude. To be in the moment. To appreciate and cherish the world.
But, when a tragedy or a negative event happens in your life, you can’t help but feel overwhelmed with emotion. With sadness. With desperation. With trauma. With complete exhaustion.
It’s so easy for me to write in this blog about happy-go-lucky feelings. About gratitude. About Buddhist principles. About ways to feel more joyful or just better about oneself.
But when tragedy strikes, sometimes all we can do is grimace and embrace the pain. Know that it is temporary. Doesn’t make that pain any better. But, all we can do in the moment is suffer. Be in pain. Be in trauma. Acknowledge it. Accept it for what it’s worth.
All the fond memories and gratitude moments in the world can’t save you from that moment of pain. Of agony. Of weariness. It’s something that I’ve gone thru once in awhile throughout my life.
When tragedy strikes, I suffer. I simply suffer in the moment. And sometimes it takes days, weeks, months, for that feeling to go away. It really depends. There are ways to dumb down the pain.
For example, you can go to the gym and exercise. You can continue working on yourself and focusing on your own pursuits. You can talk to friends and family members. You can do all these things that will temporarily halt your feeling of agony.
But, sometimes, that pain is just too much to bear. Sometimes, you just need to stomach it and move on. And realize that you are not alone in your agony. That pain has been felt by billions of people worldwide. Everyone has gone thru times like these. We are all human. We all suffer at some point in time.
And it’s hard to get out of a rut like that. But, time can be an asset. It can be a friend. As time passes, wounds will heal. And maybe you can look back at that moment in time during the future with appreciation and respect. You can look back with a certain sense of satisfaction. That you’ve been thru that period of agony, and you’ve come out a better person.
So, it’s in times like these where I don’t have sound practical advice on how to “feel better”. Sometimes, unfortunately, we just need to accept it and embrace it and see it as a learning opportunity. Like the myriad of learning opportunities that we are given in life. We can see what it is teaching us, and embrace it and hopefully we will eventually come out on the other side all the more better for it.
It’s not easy. It’s not something that can just be written away about. It’s something that lingers. It’s something that follows us on a day-by-day basis. And we should just accept it and come to terms with the inevitability that life can be sufferable at times. We need to hold the fort down and take it. And come out on the other side with more wisdom and more experience.