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Going Thru Phases

For me, when I was young, I was always preoccupied with looking cool. Seeing what the latest fashion and fad is. I thought if I wore baggy jeans, or loose-fitting clothes, I would be admired more often than not. After all, that’s what was in style.

But, what’s in style can just easily fall out of style in a split second. You could have it all at one moment, and the next moment you are grasping for straws. It really depends on life and circumstance.

Sometimes, things just aren’t fair, and you feel like the world is going against you. During these times, you need to buckle down and take a cold hard look at yourself. See why things are going wrong. Why life is being so unkind or unfair. And don’t complain. Don’t try to place the blame on others’ feet.

Take responsibility and realize that life is a phase. There will be good times, and there will be rough times. The rough times provide a great teaching moment and offer you a chance to grow and become a better version of oneself. So, be thankful of both the good times and the bad times.

Be thankful of the phases that life goes through. A true human being will learn to roll with the punches and appreciate everything (“good” or “bad”) that life has to offer. Because the true teaching moments come thru moments of struggle. Of times when it feels like the world is out to get you. When things aren’t going your way. That’s when the pressure builds up and you can produce total gems in your life.

That’s when you can rise above the occasion and become someone that your true potential can hold. So, embrace the challenge. Embrace the suck. Embrace everything that life throws your way and come out on top on the other side a better individual. That’s all you can do.

And no matter what phase of life you’re in, there will always be struggles and challenges and problems waiting for you to solve. That’s life in a nutshell. One day you’ll be loving it. The next day you’ll be dreading it. The inevitable phase change is coming whether you like it or not.

All we got to do is roll with it, go with the flow, and don’t let the struggle stop you from becoming a better version of yourself. You need to be thankful when these moments come. Because when you improve through the pain, you will be thankful for the moment. You will be thankful for the teaching lesson. You will grow beyond your wildest imagination.

And you will realize that these phase in life all come with teachable moments. Moments that will guide you to your true potential. To your total health and well-being. Moments that will make you into a stronger and more thankful person.

I’m going thru these moments right now. A part of me wishes that I don’t have to go through this. That I can just live a normal and peaceful life and not have to feel so insufficient or not enough. I really need to slap myself in the face sometimes and get with the program.

Just realize that these moments will make you stronger over time. Dig deep and be appreciative of all the hardships that life throws at you. You are not the only one dealing with hardships. Don’t throw a self-pity party. Everyone goes thru their own trials and tribulations. And you are no different.

It’s easy to start feeling sorry for yourself. It’s easy to have doubt creep in. But, this is your opportunity to look on the bright side. Get your mind right. Keep it simple and manageable. Make sure that you have the right mindset when hardship comes knocking on the door.

Because that’s all you can do. So, yes, I go through phases as well. Sometimes, in the morning, I would feel enthusiastic about life and ready for a full day of work. And then in the afternoon, I would be hit with a hard case of the “blahs” and feel indifferent and a little depressed. That’s when it’s important to shift your mindset and do things that make you happy.

Like learning a new language. Exercising a little bit at home. Going for a walk. Reading a book. Trying something new. Playing a musical instrument. Finishing up that errand. Just little things that help shift your mindset the right way. And help you rebuild your confidence, and mental well-being. Sometimes, the first step is the hardest to do. But, once you do that, everything else just rolls along seamlessly. So, take the courage to try out that first step.

To push yourself off in the right direction, and shift your approach from one of scarcity to one of abundance. To have perspective and think about what is going right instead of what is going wrong. Focus on the relationships that you still have in life. Focus on the nice weather outside. The safe community that you live in. Focus on your friends, your loved ones. You have a lot. And just realize that this moment of insecurity is simply a phase that everyone goes thru temporarily.

There are a lot of ways to get out of this funk. You just need to put one foot in front of the other and step in the right direction. Then, you will be able to get out of a phase you dread and into a phase you hold dear. Keep your mind walking in the right direction. After all, it’s what you deserve to have. Peace and harmony and well-being. That’s what each and every one of us deserve to have.

So, next time you’re feeling down. Next time you’re going thru a phase. Make sure to take that first step in the right direction. To do something small to give back to the community. To make you happier. Pursue that hobby you’ve always wanted to pursue. Reach out to a friend or a loved one. Realize that there are no enemies in this world. It’s all just perception. And if you can place your mindset in the right place, you will see that life transcends all phases. Life can be a place of peace and happiness and well-being regardless of externalities around us.

We can approach each moment and minute with gratitude. We can treat everyone with the respect and admiration that they deserve. We can treat all our experiences with acceptance and gratitude. And realize that our pain and suffering is all within us. We can get rid of it with a simple shift of perception. From scarcity to abundance. From self-pity to self-compassion. From insufficiency to peace of mind.

Do the simple things. Don’t overthink. Don’t overcomplicate. You don’t want to miss out on all the opportunities that life has to offer. And they are being offered every minute, every second, of every day. See it for what it is and treat it with gratitude and appreciation.

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