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Pat On The Back

Life can be admittedly rough at times. Sometimes, there will be issues with your finances, your relationships, your career. The possibilities are endless!

During those days, it’s important to not overthink. And not overburden yourself with a laundry endless line of to-do lists. It’s important to take it one step at a time. And give yourself a pat on the back for whatever progress you make.

It’s okay if we fall behind on our goals. It’s okay if we are not at our best at a particular time and place. Life happens. Emotions happen. We are all imperfect human beings after all.

Don’t be too hard on yourself when life gives you lemons. Give yourself a pat on the back for the simple things you complete in life. For simply waking up and taking a shower. For brushing your teeth. For going out for a walk. Even little actions like that can be small wins that lead to eventual larger victories down the road.

Know that no road is a straight path to completion. There will be twists and turns. And more winding avenues than you can ever imagine. But, just remember, to give yourself a pat on the back for your small wins every day.

I’m in the process of trying to move into my apartment. And it’s a new experience for me. But, every day, I try to take small steps towards that eventual goal. Just be grateful and be accepting of whatever life throws at you.

One day, I’m talking to the handyman about fixing a scrape on the wall. The next day, I’m inquiring about their elevators to see if they can fit the sofa that I’m about to order. Little things like that are not rocket science. But, they move the needle a little bit. And it gets you closer to where you want to go.

And I think even minuscule progress like that is progress at the end of the day. So, it’s important to take baby steps when trying to fulfill a larger goal or a larger purpose. Find that greater goal and then move at your own pace. Take the necessary actions towards eventually get to where you want to be.

It’s my goal to be self-sufficient and self-reliant. To be more independent and less reliant on my parents. And that goal can be really grand and a little bit taxing if you think about it from a large perspective. So, it’s important to break down the large goal into small bite-sized chunks where you can take care of small actions day by day.

For example, I’m trying to improve my cooking skills. So these days, I’m shadowing my mom around the kitchen to learn some of her trademark dishes. I ask her questions about cooking. I take action myself and handle some of the cooking on my own. I’m not an expert by any means, but every little action counts.

So, I think, these small wins everyday can build up if you build up the correct habit and stay consistent. Consistency is key. And progress (no matter how big or small) is important too. When you take action in whatever matter or form, give yourself a pat on the back.

No need to fill yourself with negative self-talk. Just be you and work towards your goals in every little way possible. In actuality, it can be quite fun if you think of it as a game! You are accumulating experience points, just like in those Final Fantasy role-playing games. You are leveling up. You are becoming a better version of yourself. And that’s what matters at the end of the day.

We all have quirks and flaws that we can improve upon. I’m no different. For me, I’m acknowledging some of my flaws and trying to proactively work towards getting better at them. I am confident enough to acknowledge my weaknesses and prepare a mental map of some actions to take in order to improve.

My journey now is about self-reliance. About moving into my own apartment. About calling more shots on my own. And I think those big wins come in the form of little everyday steps.

Think about a world-class athlete and how they need to train every single day. And get the minute details down. And it’s a day-by-day process. To be great or self-sufficient, you need to work towards it every single day. Acknowledge your flaws and failings, and try to improve upon it the best you can.

That’s the beauty of life. To improve at your own pace with your own plan. I think there are many goals worthy to strive for in this world. It’s up to you to decide what it is you want to do for yourself. And just go for it. And give yourself some credit along the way.

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